Chapter 2016: Free as a bird and ready to soar!

hello 2016

The first day of a new year always brings the onslaught of individuals declaring New Year’s resolutions. For me, this year is much different than ones in the past. So many amazing things are already planned for 2016….from my first trip to Hawaii to flying across the country to support my brother (more on that later in a future blog post). Before I can move forward with the new year though, I must reflect on the previous 365 days in 2015.

Pros:

  • Went on my first cruise to Mexico for my 35th birthday
  • Enjoyed an amazing vacation at home in Indianapolis with my entire family, even the ones who live in London
  • My Grandmama was able to witness her great-grandson getting baptized
  • I forgave my biological father for so many things
  • Had incredible success at work and added several major items to my public relations portfolio
  • Cut off all my hair again so I could rock the curly hair
  • Mended the relationship with a couple of family members
  • Started dating someone

Cons:

  • Let my anger get the best of me in one specific situation (trust me…it was warranted)
  • Even though I tuned into the streaming services in Indianapolis, I stopped attending church here in Memphis which I regret and hope to correct in 2016
  • Attended the funeral of my mentor (continue to RIH Amos)
  • Discovered the man I was dating (see last bullet point in the pro section) had not been completely honest with me which thus led to its ultimate demise.

It’s funny because I wanted to write this blog over the last week but due to unforeseen circumstances dealing with the man I was dating, my mind just wasn’t focused on writing. I plan to change that in 2016. Writing is therapeutic for me. Yes, therapeutic. There’s nothing wrong with finding the right therapy for you. In my case, writing is what works. It allows me the ability to share what I am feeling and thinking. Will I divulge all my personal information on my blog or social media? Heck no! I honestly will probably only talk generically about situations if their personal. Otherwise, I am sure I will at some point address the everyday problems many of us face.

One of my goals for this new year is to actually lose the weight I said I would lose in 2015 in time to support my brother. I also want to write more….perhaps even a blog post once a week (that may be a little too ambitious). I want to get back into the habit of going to church. Somewhere along the way, I lost touch, and I believe it has definitely had an impact on my life.

Finally, in this new year, I want to be happy. I want to laugh more than I cry. I want to enjoy life and all the wonderful people surrounding me. If a heterosexual African-American man between the age of 32 and 40 with a college degree, a promising career in a legal field (meaning not illegal), and a relationship with God [HAVE TO BE SPECIFIC WITH YOUR REQUESTS] happens to join in my happiness along the way so be it.

I’m looking forward to these 366 days of 2016.

As always, these are just a few thoughts “From My Hart.”

Goodbye 2014, Welcome 2015!

2015

Well, this is it. The end of 2014 is here, and it has surely been an eventful year.

I lost friendships but gained new ones. I lost weight but then gained it back and then some. I helped to create three mobile apps for my employer (that was pretty exciting)! I celebrated my 34th birthday both in Memphis and Indianapolis (I always go big for my birthday….more on that in a future blog post). I colored my hair red….like serious fire engine red. That was fun while it lasted! And yes, you can have red hair and still manage to look professional. I was introduced to online dating (more on that later). I bought a new car! I had an opportunity to not only attend but give a presentation at a national conference.

This blog entry though isn’t just about what happened in 2014 but what’s in store for 2015! Many new adventures are on the horizon, including my quest to fulfill 35 things on my Bucket List during my 35th year on this earth. I am determined to do things I have either never done or done in quite some time. I am determined to truly live MY life this year. I am determined to smile more than frown. I am determined to laugh more than be stressed. I’m claiming love in my life!

God works in such mysterious ways. As I’m typing this, one of my favorite songs just started playing on my gospel music station. “For every mountain You brought me over…..For every trial You’ve seen me through…..For every blessing…..Hallelujah, for this I give You praise!”

For all things I have had to endure in my short amount of time on this earth, I am truly blessed to still be given the opportunity to see yet another year. And for this, I give Him ALL the praise!

I am really looking forward to 2015! I believe this is going to be an exciting year!

Please be safe tonight and get a designated driver if you are going to drink!

Until next time…….these have been just a few thoughts “From My Hart.”

265? Oh Hell Naw.

Oh hell naw

The season of 2014 holidays is just about over, and there will no doubt be many who look at their beltline and realize they may have eaten two (or three or four) plates too many between Christmas, Hanukkah and Thanksgiving. But let’s be honest. We all know we inevitably gain a few pounds during this time of year just based solely on the amount of food at the work place, holiday parties, etc.

Well, I know I did.

So, what’s the meaning behind the 265? Is it the number of songs on my iTunes account? Naw.  Is it the amount of money in my checking account? Naw. Is it the number of days left before my next vacation? Naw….but close. 

The other day I chose to weigh myself. I purposefully hadn’t done it in quite some time because I knew I had gained weight and figured if I didn’t acknowledge the actual number then it would somehow mean the extra weight really didn’t exist. I know, I know. That sounds crazy even as I type it, but in my mind it made perfectly good sense at the time.

I paused for a moment before stepping onto the scale realizing there was no turning back. I had to take the first step to reclaiming my life and curvaceous body. See, I love my curves. I embrace them. I feel they add to my personality. Unfortunately, life (and all that entails) turned my curves into much more and now I want them back. My hips! My thick thighs! My derrière! My breasts! Yep, all of that!

Okay, okay….I’m once again delaying the inevitable. Yes, I stepped on the scale. I was unbelievably shocked. I was saddened. I was speechless…..well, almost. The scale read 265. Oh hell naw. I wanted to cry. I really did. Instead, I looked at that scale and told myself (yes out loud) enough is enough.

I am a fighter (you’ll learn more about that later in upcoming blogs….duh, I’m a communication professional so of course I have to leave you with a teaser), and I will fight this weight head on. For the last two days, I not only woke up early when I really didn’t have to, but I took my butt to the gym. Talk about a shocking experience….my body didn’t know how to react when I walked through those doors! Nevertheless, I did it. I spent a solid 30 minutes on the treadmill (20 of which was on an incline), and I have to say I was pretty damn proud of myself. It may not seem like much to some of you, but to me it was the first step in the right direction. Hey, you have to start somewhere, right?

Why am I telling you this? Well, for one it is pretty damn therapeutic for me. It’s also a way to hold myself accountable. I mean think about it…..in two months I should be writing about my weight loss instead of gaining another 10-15 pounds, right? But there really is another reason for this blog.

With the new year comes many around the world who make New Year’s Resolutions, most of which are to lose weight. With these resolutions comes an influx of individuals at the community gyms. For those of you who regularly frequent these establishments, I know you absolutely HATE this time of year because the new gym goers take all the treadmills, elliptical machines and free weights. What these people need is encouragement from you. Tell them to keep up the good work. If you see someone sweating profusely and struggling to even walk to the locker room, let them know the pay off will be so well worth it!  

As for me, I have set my own personal weight loss goals, and I will keep my blog updated on my progress.

Until next time…….these have been just a few thoughts “From My Hart.”